Self respect

“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.”

― Joan Didion

Modern day thinking tells us that everyone deserves an award just for showing up, but I believe that deep down inside we all know when we did not do our best, or even try.  A lifetime of getting awards simply for showing up I believe wears on our souls.
Why try to succeed if you will be just as appreciated for not trying as you are for working really hard?  But deep down those who can look at trophy covered walls, know that they are empty. Not a finger was lifted to get those awards, anybody could have gotten them.
They look back on their lives and realize they can not stand on their own two feet, everything has to be handed to them. That is where desperation springs from.

There are some cases where the person where special consideration is due. There are some people who face greater difficulties then the rest  who do deserve an award for things we take for granted.  But those people are exceptions to the rule.

We owe it to ourselves and to the next generation to help everyone find some area in their life where they are talented and encourage them to be all that they can be.  We need to encourage kids to slowly take responsibility for their own life.  If they are overweight don’t tell them that it is McDonald’s fault, take them to the doctor, and if they have no medical issues giving them problems encourage them to take responsibility  for their own health. Teach them that treats are OK on occasion but they need real food to live off of.  Teach them a form of exercise they can enjoy. The gym isn’t for everyone there are so many other ways to get exercise, and many of them are fun.
Teach them the joys of hiking, sports or swimming… If you can look for an organization that encourages kids to take an active part in their community and get exercise at the same time, like cleaning up the local park , or dog walking at the local animal shelter.  While patting a kid on the back for just showing up may make them feel good for the moment, in the long run it does them great psychological harm.  Instead teach them to be all that they can be. “I DID IT MYSELF!”  Feels so much better then “I showed up, now where’s my prize?”.

 

Reasoning to Atheism

“Supposing there was no intelligence behind the universe, no creative mind. In that case, nobody designed my brain for the purpose of thinking. It is merely that when the atoms inside my skull happen, for physical or chemical reasons, to arrange themselves in a certain way, this gives me, as a by-product, the sensation I call thought. But, if so, how can I trust my own thinking to be true? It’s like upsetting a milk jug and hoping that the way it splashes itself will give you a map of London. But if I can’t trust my own thinking, of course I can’t trust the arguments leading to Atheism, and therefore have no reason to be an Atheist, or anything else. Unless I believe in God, I cannot believe in thought: so I can never use thought to disbelieve in God.”

—C.S. Lewis

Self Improvement

Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man.

Benjamin Franklin

Most of us make New Years Resolutions, but it is now June, do you still remember what your resolutions were? Are you still making positive steps toward achieving them? If not maybe it is time to change your resolution strategy. Instead of making one or two giant resolutions on New Years Eve, you should try to make a couple of small resolutions a month. Was one of your resolutions to lose wieght? Scrap that one and resolve to drink a bottle of water every day for a month. Anouther option would be to eat an apple every day 30 minutes before your biggest meal of the day. Goals like these are a lot easier to do then losing say 30 pounds, and if you can do it every day for a month there is a big chance that it will become a habit. Eventually if you develop enough good habits you will lose the wieght.
There are many other goals that can be split up into 12 smaller to attain goals. For many this stragedy will work better then a giant goal that most people forget about by February.

PLEASE note I am not a doctor, it would be a great idea to talk to your doctor before making any lifestyle changes.